Happy New Year gorgeous folk!
I hope you’ve had a fantastic holiday season – between an orphan Christmas with friends, copious Christmas parties and my first New Years at Woodford Folk Festival, dancing to Sex On Toast and staying up to watch the sunrise, mine has been pretty terrific!
Sex On Toast in all their outrageous glory:
I really like this time of year: spending much more social time with loved ones than usual and letting them know how much they mean to you, forgetting the serious stuff for a while just to have fun in the sunshine, appreciating the year that was and re-evaluating your priorities to see in the new year. I fully commit myself to the spirit of this and make sure I spend my New Year’s Eve with people I care a lot about and can have a lot of fun with, but also, I make myself a list of New Year’s resolutions.
They’re a funny thing, New Year’s Resolutions. Realistically, you could make them at any time of the year, but I think the significance of the calendar year changing is more motivating than most other times of year, and I for one like to take full advantage of it.
While some people like to think of New Year’s Day as just another day, I embrace the symbolism of it and separate my life into each year. I’ve always been the sort of person who can tell you at least one thing I was doing if someone mentions a year, sometimes in annoyingly irrelevant detail, but I’ve always loved that about myself. It’s nice to have a signpost for each year, so I can remember who I was, where I was and what I was doing to see how much I’ve changed and the things that I’ve experienced that make me who I am today.
2014 will forever be my first year as a single woman.
The year I moved in with my incredible housemates into an iconic Queensland share house. The year I learned to truly love my whole self (belly, acne, bad jokes and all). The year I finished my Bachelor degree. The year I started my business. The year I went to Sydney and was a finalist in the Bupa Blog Awards. The year I wrote and released my first eBook, ‘Fab Fast Feasts’. The year I went on lots of dates, motivational seminars and met more people in one year than I ever have before. The year I went blonde. The year I made it my mission to make the world know that we are all a BUNCH OF TOTAL BABES! The year I became confident, happy, independent and strong.
It was a hard year, but it was also a truly amazing one, that I will never forget. I managed to stick to a few of my New Year’s resolutions (visiting Sydney, for example), while others weren’t stuck to with as much conviction (I never did get to a Bikram class). But I’m not down about it. In fact, I’m incredibly proud of myself for achieving what I did this year. However, I can’t help but think I needed to change the way I make my resolutions this time around.
Here is what I am doing differently;
Take the time to truly reflect on your past year
What did you like and what didn’t you like? What parts of you, other than just the physical parts of you would you like to change? Are you too concerned with the opinions of others, or do you give too much, without taking care of yourself? Do you want to inspire people around you, or do you need to take more time for self-care, away from social media?
There are so many aspects of ourselves that we can look after, and I like to make sure that my goals aren’t there to serve others, rather, just serving myself. Yes, I want to be healthy, look after my body, eat well most of the time and get my body moving a bit more often, but I want to do that for me. When I look after my wellbeing I can function better, I’m less moody and anxious, my skin glows and I feel better about myself on the whole. While I don’t have a perfect body, I’m not too fussed about how it looks anymore, in fact, I like it. So I steer clear of goals concerning how I look, and you should too. After all, you are a complex, amazing and beautiful person, so look after who you are, not just how you look.
Remember in your reflection to be proud of yourself. Even though you made mistakes, you also did some incredible stuff, got through hard times and were generous with others. You’re a pretty rad person, if you take the time to see it.
Don’t be too specific with every resolution
Some resolutions need to be specific, but this year I’ve purposely made sure that mine aren’t too specific. The reason is simply this; if you aren’t the sort of person who can do everything they set out to, you automatically set yourself up to feel guilty if you fail. Which isn’t what these resolutions are about. I’m not saying to let yourself off easy, but, may I suggest these substitutions instead:
“Exercise 5 days a week”
“Live a more active life. Include incidental exercise and find an active class or activity I can regularly enjoy”
“Cut out carbs”
“Make every meal an opportunity to nourish myself. Eat more vegetables and less of the foods that I know make me feel sick/bloated/etc”
It’s really important to shift the language that you use in order to help you achieve your goals, because while they aren’t so strict that you can’t “fall off the wagon” so-to-speak, they also allow space for you to forgive yourself. The reality is, that life gets in the way, and beating yourself up about not sticking to a resolution is a waste of your time; it achieves nothing.
Empower yourself! (No one else is going to)
Take the time to create strategies
Once you’ve thought of your resolutions, sit down and nut out strategies. If your resolution is to be more financially independent, what steps will help you get there? Make a list of anything you might need to buy or do or research to achieve your goals, when you might need to do things and how. With a strategy in place, you are much more likely to see yourself achieving your goals, which makes it so much easier in the long run.
I found it much easier to take each task one day at a time (literally), but you might prefer to go out and get things organised and purchased all at once, which is great too. Get it done as soon as you can, but don’t push yourself to get it all done in one day (I always find I forget how many hours there are in a day, myself, and try to achieve too much).
Remind yourself of your resolutions
There’s no use making resolutions if you aren’t going to be aware of them, so I like to stick mine to the back of my bedroom door. This way I can see them every day and remember what my priorities are. You could write yours on a piece of paper to stick in your diary, or maybe even put them up as a background on your computer. Just make sure you see them every day, because you made them with thought and care, they deserve to be remembered.
I would love hear what your New Year’s resolutions are for 2015, so please comment below and share them so we can motivate one another. If you’d like to know mine, just ask and I’ll post them in there too.
If healthy eating is a resolution for you, then don’t forget to sign up to Miranda’s Wellness with your email in the side-bar, and my eBook ‘Fab Fast Feasts’ will be sent directly to your inbox.
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I’m looking forward to a fabulous 2015 with you all. Thank you so much for supporting me through 2014.xxx