Social media is a big part of my life. I use it to keep in touch/informed about people I usually wouldn’t see much of, I Instagram pictures of my life for the fun of it, find and share links all over the place and all the rest of the social media bit – I love it!
I don’t mind sharing parts of my life with the world, mainly my own private Facebook world, because its all part of it. But when it comes to the negative parts, I am unsure. Part of me wants to be genuine, part of me doesn’t want to bring negativity to the world (especially because how I’m feeling is temporary), part of me knows that I don’t like seeing too many complaints out there in the world, and part of me doesn’t really know why I feel the need to share it.
We’ve all seen those (albeit hilarious) articles depicting Facebook/Instagram/Twitter etc “in real life”, showing the effort we put into getting the perfect photo/quote/joke/comment because we want to show the best of ourselves (we do this in real life too, it’s just easier to acheive and more criticised when it’s on a visual platform like social media). We’ve also experienced seeing others’ lives like this and felt inadequate as a consequence. It’s something that we can’t really avoid, so we have to figure out a way to navigate it, depicting who we feel we are or how we want to be seen, without letting the image of other’s in our social media sphere get to us.
So, this morning, I woke up in a good mood; two of my housemates have come back from their overseas trip, I have research to do for a friend and I’d decided to go out to get a bit of food and grab an iced coffee (a cheap treat for myself). But life came in and smacked some sense into me to make sure I knew part of my day wasn’t possible and I spent 15 minutes deciding whether or not I should put it on Facebook. The reality is that putting this negativity out there would probably do one of four things:
- Receive eye rolls
- Receive pity
- Bore the crap out of/annoy people
- Be ignored
None of which is very productive, and in the end I would probably feel worse knowing that it was out there as it’s a part of my life I want to change. I mean, don’t get me wrong – I am super pissed right now! At myself, at the universe, at life. But do I really need to tell people this part? What does that achieve?
This is the thing with social media; it’s easy to criticise the way that people share their lives on there, but no matter what you do, you are criticised.
Are the things you share always positive? Then you aren’t being genuine.
Are the things you share just every day things? You are a mundane, boring, oversharer.
Do you mostly share things that you are passionate about? You are too opinionated, and most likely, annoying.
Me? I share an average of 5 posts a day. I have lots of selfies, share lots of links, have Instagram linked to Twitter linked to Facebook, at times have Tumblr linked to Facebook, have a Spotify account which posts to Facebook on my behalf, I follow heaps of accounts on YouTube, I photograph my food and THEN I have my page for this blog which I sometimes share on my personal Facebook. I’m an outspoken feminist, I love kittens, puppies and babies, I love memes and GIFs, I check-in at cafes and restaurants, share what I’m listening to, create my own hashtags, celebrate hot men and what it is to be single, and let’s not forget my occasional Pinterest binges. I would not at all be surprised if people were annoyed with my social media presence – but I kinda, sorta, really don’t give a shit.
Don’t get me wrong, there are people in my news feed that irritate me too (thank god for the ‘unfollow’ button, ammirite?), but you have to expect that. After all, people get annoyed by stupid stuff in real life too, you know.
I think I’ll continue to minimise the negative that I share with the world and keep the depressing stuff for genuine friends who can take it and actually help me feel better with real life conversation and feeling – it works well for me.
While there is good and bad in every situation, I see no issue in knowing this fact, accepting it and focussing on the positive anyway.
Facebook is supposed to be fun after all. So with that in mind, here is today’s selfie/OOTD: